Description of the Decision Maker® Technology
PRINCIPLES UNDERLYING THE
The Decision Maker® Processes are based on one basic principle and two secondary principles.
For example, assume your parents were very critical of you most of the time and rarely acknowledged you for your achievements. Most children would conclude that There's something wrong with me, or I'm not good enough, or I'm not capable. Those conclusions are beliefs you've formed about yourself. You would experience them as "the truth" about you, even if consciously you realized the beliefs were silly and illogical.
If you were to recall your childhood, it would seem to you as if you could "see" that There's something wrong with me. In other words, when you visualized your parents being critical, it would seem as if you also were visualizing There's something wrong with me. It would be so real that you could see your belief in the world that you could say to someone: "If you were there at the time, you also would see There's something wrong with me."
But if you really looked at the events that led to the belief, namely, your parents' behavior, you would realize that the events could have a number of different meanings, each as valid as the others. For example:
Each of these meanings is as valid as the one you choose as a child.
If you now tried to visualize There's something wrong with me "out there in the world," you would realize you couldn't, because you never did see it. All you actually saw was your parents' behavior. And if that behavior could have a number of valid meanings, there is no single inherent meaning. At which point you would be forced to conclude that the only place that meaning has ever existed has been as a belief in your mind.
If this process were used to look at any belief you might hold about anything, you would discover the same three principles. If you were to start at the opposite end and look at any event, you will discover there could be a number of possible meanings, which logically leads to the conclusion that it has no inherent meaning.
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